Originally I had given one of the chapters in Not Like Me this title, but my editor encouraged me to broaden the topic and discuss serving, loving, and reaching out to all people no matter how the live their life morally – not just those who are living a homosexual lifestyle. The chapter is now called “Lots of Sex in the City: Engaging Others in a Post-Sexual Revolution World.”
If you haven’t heard already, the California Supreme Court ruled that the same sex marriage ban voted on and approved by California voters in 2000 was unconstitutional. Same sex marriage will be legal in California within the next few weeks. The 4-3 decision will lead to more court battles and more arguments.
With friends on both sides of this issue, and with my own personal convictions, I thought I would offer a few thoughts to consider as the dialogue heats up:
It is possible and in fact imperative to love people – even those with whom we disagree.
We can involve and include people in our lives and in our churches – even those with whom we may disagree. (Anyone can be a part of our community at Mosaic – no matter who they are or what they believe. To become a part of our volunteer staff requires going through a mentoring process).
Christians should not expect non-Christians to act as if they have the same standards, especially since even Christians have a hard time living up to them. The Spirit of God can truly change people when people want to be transformed.
Those opposed to same sex marriage should share reasons for a ban based on a broad rationale rather than simply spiritual reasons.
We cannot influence others we have pushed away. This includes those who are struggling to figure out what to do with their sexual desires while growing up.
Christians are known for who we hate rather than how we love. This moves us out of the conversation and polarizes those involved so quickly no progress can be made.Most of us already feel like God will judge us. Too often, we don’t realize that God offers to love and forgive us.
Another thought on politics and faith: “Changing Laws or Changing People?”